Where does your self worth come from? Society deems the individual as supreme. It tells us that is good to be popular and to be popular you should dress sexier, have a degree from a pricey university, a house in a well to do neighborhood, and a certain number of likes on social media.
We value things that constantly change and measure ourselves against things that are temporary. Then we wonder why our self-esteem suffers and our hearts ache.
When we love things of this world, we cannot value ourselves as God plans. When we cannot value ourselves, we cannot love ourselves. When we cannot love ourselves, we attract people who cannot love us and our downward spiral of self-worth continues.
Proverbs 3: Valuing Yourself in God’s Plan
Proverbs Chapter 3 calls us to find value in virtue. It ignores fashion and tells us to place mercy and justice around our necks. It tells us to embrace virtue so intimately that it is written in our hearts.
Let not mercy and truth leave thee, put them about thy neck, and write them in the tables of thy heart: And thou shalt find grace and good understanding before God and men.(v. 3-4)
Too often we love things that don’t resemble mercy and truth. Too often society tells us to have confidence in ourselves knowing we fail. God tells us that to value ourselves we must place all our confidence, not in ourselves, but in God who never fails.
Have confidence in the Lord with all thy heart, and lean not upon thy own prudence. (v. 5)
Since Adam and Eve’s exile, God has told us to return our best to Him. We see what holding onto earthly treasures did to Cain and Abel. We know what Jesus said about a camel passing through the eye of a needle and a rich man to going to Heaven, yet we still find worth in possessions.
God tells us that only after giving our best to Him will our barns be filled and our presses run over. It is only after giving to God first that we unite in the Body and Blood of Christ and find our worth in the King.
Honour the Lord with thy substance, and give him of the first of all thy fruits: And thy barns shall be filled with abundance, and thy presses shall run over with wine. (v. 9-10)
God tells us Blessings don’t come from paychecks, houses, or human relationships. Blessings come from Wisdom, and wealth is found in Prudence. God tells us no riches compare.
Blessed is the man that findeth wisdom and is rich in prudence: The purchasing thereof is better than the merchandise of silver, and her fruit than the chiefest and purest gold: She is more precious than all riches: and all the things that are desired, are not to be compared with her. (v. 13-15)
God tells us we do not gain worth in our degrees and certifications, but in Laws we keep and Counsel we seek. He tells us Goodness gives Life and Grace. When we keep our eye on these we find confidence to walk without stumbling and find rest, sweet sleep, and fearlessness.
My son, let not these things depart from thy eyes: keep the law and counsel: And there shall be life to thy soul, and grace to thy mouth. Then shalt thou walk confidently in thy way, and thy foot shall not stumble: If thou sleep, thou shalt not fear: thou shalt rest, and thy sleep shall be sweet. Be not afraid of sudden fear, nor of the power of the wicked falling upon thee. (v. 21-25)
God asks us not to withhold from Him the pleasure of teaching us our value. He tells us to escape comfort zones and give freely of ourselves so others also learn of value they have in Him.
For the Lord will be at thy side, and will keep thy foot that thou be not taken. Do not withhold him from doing good, who is able: if thou art able, do good thyself also. Say not to thy friend: Go, and come again: and tomorrow I will give to thee: when thou canst give at present. Practise not evil against thy friend, when he hath confidence in thee. Strive not against a man without cause, when he hath done thee no evil. (v. 26-30)
Finally, God warns against what this world sees as valuable and tells us to seek value in such things is not only impossible, it is wicked.
Envy not the unjust man, and do not follow his ways: For every mocker is an abomination to the Lord, and his communication is with the simple. Want is from the Lord in the house of the wicked: but the habitations of the just shall be blessed. He shall scorn the scorners, and to the meek he will give grace. The wise shall possess glory: the promotion of fools is disgrace. (v. 31-35)
Value does not come from your stuff or your looks or how you compare to others. Value comes only from drawing closer to the Lord’s Mercy and Truth, Wisdom and Prudence, Law and Counsel, and His unfailing confidence.
The Good God seeks to give you stretches beyond the material possessions you might assume. God doesn’t promise you good in terms of housing or relationships or possessions. God promises you Love and value. It is only after you accept this everlasting, unchanging worth from Him that you begin to accept it in yourself.
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