cild's hand & mom's hand holding a daisy on Mother's Day

5 Ways to Celebrate Mother’s Day on Your Own

cild's hand & mom's hand holding a daisy on Mother's Day

Mother’s Day is built up with a commercialized hype that is sure to leave some women disappointed, but no matter what your situation, you don’t have to be one of those disappointed moms. Mother’s Day should be celebrated even if you are celebrating on your own!

Whether you are a single mom, an unhappily Married mom, or a mom whose husband means well but forgets you need to see his love, your Mother’s Day may be less than ideal, but it is still worth celebrating!

You are worth celebrating!

Your life is meant to be a celebration every day, yet some days celebration seems hard! On this one day when you are told to celebrate you but it seems like those you most want to appreciate you still take you for granted, the expectation of celebration seems too much and we can be tempted to fall to self-pity, bitterness and resentment, but that does not need to be the case!

Recently I spoke to a group who knows the pain of Mother’s Day isolation and letdown better than most – single moms. These women had a few ideas about how to celebrate Mother’s Day, and I have a few of my own too! Let me know what you think and feel free to comment about things you do to celebrate too!

5 Ways to Celebrate Mother’s Day on Your Own

  1. Lower Your Expectations – Ouch! This may make you feel like the problem is with you. It is not, but you can decide to play the victim or change your thinking. If you know year after year Mother’s Day will be swept under the rug, stop hoping it will be otherwise. Not doing so sets you and your loved ones up for failure. If you know your husband will not produce the recognition you hope for, don’t sit and hope this year will be different or snarkily berate him to your friends. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and hoping for different results. You will literally drive yourself crazy hoping for something you know probably won’t happen. Stop it.
  2. Ask for What You Need – Lowering expectations does not mean giving up! Too often women expect men and children to read their minds and then become resentful when they don’t. Don’t assume those who mean the most to you know what you want or that they “should” know. Don’t assume they should know how much you need to be acknowledged in love. They may assume you already know how they feel. They may assume you don’t need the artificial stuff that goes along with marketing campaigns that have taken over our major holidays. If something is important to you, on Mother’s Day and every day, ask for it. If it’s important that it be done in a certain way, ask for it to be done that way! Love your family enough to give them guidance, not guesswork.
  3. Find Your Passion – I heard a statistic recently that said 80% of us don’t know what we are passionate about. We have causes, routines, and expectations, but passions? That is often something very different. One of the reasons we feel such Mother’s Day letdown is because we hope another fills the hole a passionless life creates. Take a few minutes every day to discover yourself. Remember what made you laugh and dream as a child. Ask what happened to your dreams, not in a destructive way but in an exploratative way. If you are unsure, coaching can help you discover who you are, who you are meant to be, and the path to take you there! Take time to invest in yourself
  4. Get Out and Do Something, or Really Don’t! – Remember those things you did as a child? Stop being MOM and do them again! Breathe fresh air. Ride your bike. Take a hike. Go to a museum. Challenge yourself. Do something to celebrate the life God has given you. If you decide you run all the time and would prefer to stay home and rest, do that, but stay home purposely and rest well! Turn off your phone. Forget the laundry. Laugh when family members do what come naturally to them. Take time to play and pamper yourself. Get your kids to help you make your own bath fizzies or paper flowers or make them yourself if you have to. The important thing is to choose to be happy doing so. You may be surprised by how much showing this fun side of yourself helps your family show how their love and appreciation of this side of you. Don’t go into this with high expectations though. Go into this knowing this is something meant to discover and celebrate you, not win appreciation from others!
  5. Align Your Heart with Other Moms – What we assume goes on inside other people’s homes is often very different from reality. Reach out. Call a friend. Say hello. Find time when the baby is napping or your husband is mowing the lawn to light a candle and pray for a friend suffering from infertility or loss this Mother’s Day. Ask Mary, who gave birth to her Savior, walked with Him every step of the way to Calgary, and then traced His steps in the first Stations of the Cross which she developed, to take you into her heart and lend you her heart as Mother Teresa asked. Mary knows the sorrow of Mother’s Day better than anyone; she also knows God has a plan worth celebrating. Receive, as Mother Mary did,  validation from The King on the throne not from some human you knock off a pedestal. God’s Love is real and ready for your embrace.

We often have unrealistic expectations when it comes to holidays and unrealistic views of what life is like for others. We assume the worst of our own situations and the best of theirs. We assume no one understands. We feel alone, and Satan attacks especially hard on Mother’s Day, a day we can think less of purselves and more of how to honor Mary and our desire to join her pure heart. Do not let the fantasy of what Mother’s Day, or any day, “should be like” put a toe in the door to your heart. Bear your cross, receive validation from the Lord, and be grateful.

It is no one else’s responsibility to MAKE you happy. Choose to find Joy in the simple things including in the struggles that come from being a mom. Vow to love your family better no matter what you think they owe you this day.

Finally, I will not wish you a Happy Mother’s Day. I wish you something better, something you already have been given simply by being a mom. I wish you a …

Blessed Mother’s Day!

If you would like help celebrating the woman you are created to be, whether single or Married, I’d love to help you do that!

Want to know what makes you special? Want to discover how and why to celebrate you for once? My coaching can help you discover yourself, find your passion, and learn unique ways to celebrate.  

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